When you read or see that title, you think of the song by Monica called “For You, I Will”. At the end of the blog, you’ll see the video & get an opportunity to take in a bit of nostalgia. Anyways, I know some of you are thinking “Why is he writing a blog about a song from the 90s”? Well, I’m glad you asked. The reason this song reached my mental queue is that an image circulated from when I was 16 years old and participated in a mock wedding that promoted abstinence. Before anyone gets up in arms, NO Bryan didn’t literally get married. I would love to find true love. Anyways, I’ll give the back story behind the image being shared, & what caused me to get married.
A couple of days ago, one of the staff members from the Salvation Army Boys & Girls Club (a huge part of my growth and personal brand) had a couple of lost files, & decided to share a couple of pictures online, & the first one that I saw was of me in a tuxedo married to a best friend of mine from the Boys & Girls Club. For some reason, there was this distinction that we didn’t talk to each other or acquaint with each other. The truth is that I had an opportunity to grow with a friend despite the fact that we went to two different schools and had our paths be apart but close (and I’ll explain why). As I mentioned, I will give the backstory in a few. So, I shared the picture because I can remember nearly a decade ago when she passed, & her mother knew that I took it tough, because it was VERY unexpected. As many of my friends know, I speak out about domestic violence (yes it’s a weird way that I go about it, but it comes together…don’t ask me how, but it does). Well, she was literally a part of what is known as being in the wrong place at the wrong time. I won’t give the full details of what happened because that’s not how I function. Regardless, anytime I see pictures of her, it’s tough that there has been no closure or completeness behind what happened, & I personally am not fond of that.
Now, to get to why I was dressed in a white tuxedo getting married. Well, I was a part of the first wedding for a way to promote abstinence called “For You, I Will”. What happened was that everyone had to write an essay as to their thoughts related to sex and abstaining from it. The man and woman who had the best essay became groom and bride, & then those who had next best and so on and so forth participated in the wedding. I don’t care what anyone says, but I feel like the wedding as a whole brought quite a bit of unity amongst those who participated. I personally may not talk to each person that was a part of it, but I can tell you that I know all that’s going on.
And now, the reason I wanted to share this. As mentioned, a lot of people didn’t know that I got married. Well, technically, I was married for a few minutes. After the wedding (yes it was mock), we were no longer married, but the truth is that we were and remained close friends up until the incident happened (and for cordial purposes, I won’t go into full detail about that). What I WILL say is that violence is not the answer. Regardless of who or what you’re trying to go after, there are sometimes people who become a part of a situation that shouldn’t even be in the midst of it, to begin with. That’s the most cordial way I can put it. I’m not married and haven’t found Mrs. Right or “Player 2”. I’m just trying to work on my personal brand and future growth in so many words. That’s the best way to put it. Now that we’ve gotten past that, I hope everyone enjoys the day.